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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You wrote a long post and seem very caught up in your emotions.  What your post boils down to is this:  your dad expressed his preference before his death, your mom as next of kin expressed her preference after his death, you did what you wanted.

I think you did the wrong thing for two reasons:  1) your mom is next of kin and she is the only person who has the legal authority to possess and/or dispose of your father's ashes as such her decision is the only one to be considered, and 2) you purposefully violated the rules of the cemetery where you spread the ashes.  I wish you had been caught by the cemetery because then you would have suffered some consequences form your violation of its rules.  Your mom would be well within her rights to contact them and tell them what you have done.  I hope she does.

And, I get it.  I want to be cremated as well.  However, my next of kin or executor is the only person who will be making decisions about what happens to my ashes.  I don't want a bunch of random people running around doing whatever the heck they want to do regardless of whether I've told them that or not.

People who are dying make a lot of statements that they might not make in other circumstances.  Your dad's will and your dad's conversations with your mom precede any death bed conversation you had and should take precedence.[/quote]

Completely disagree. Dad wanted what he wanted; kudos to OP and her sister for not ignoring that in favor of a narcissist. The only thing I would have done differently OP, is I would have spread the whole last bag on his parents’ graves and none on her parents. You’re right that she’s only concerned with control, so just gray Rick her about this in the future. Don’t discuss, don’t engage at all. I would have denied it too. [/quote]

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