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[quote=Anonymous]I was dumped on my birthday by the guy I thought was the love of my life. This was not a short-term fling. We were together for several years. We went out for a very romantic dinner on my birthday. The ride home was nice, we were talking and laughing and listening to music. Then he said I had done something that annoyed him earlier in the week. I apologized and explained that was not my intent. Long story short, this went on for about 3-5 minutes until he said "We're DONE" and started driving me home. We had been working on our relationship for a few weeks - I knew that he was unhappy but we were working on things. I figured it was a phase - during covid, I went through a phase where I was unhappy and questioned the relationship, but I gave him a second chance. I was glad that I did. Just two weeks ago he said he loved me and that he was going to give the relationship the chance it deserved.

My heart is broken. But what gets me isn't just the heartbreak. It's the things he said while breaking up with me. He didn't just say "This isn't working out, I wish you all the best." He said:
-That he hated me
-That he didn't like a single thing about me
-That nothing I did would make me good enough for him
-That if he never saw me again he would be happy
-That he had no respect for me (I asked why and he said "Because I hate you.")
-That I was "lower than a roach" to him (this is a real thing he said - I have never in my life heard anyone say this)
-That I was a crazy b itch 
-At one point I asked what I did and could we talk about it and he said "Oh my god, are you deaf or dumb?"

I started crying and asking what I did wrong and he mocked me in a whiney voice. I said "You told me you loved me earlier" and his response was "I was lying. I owe you nothing."

Heartbreak aside, I am struggling for other reasons. I spent years with someone I loved, and thought was a kind person, only to be spoken to this way at the end. I don't know how I will ever be able to trust any man that I love again. I just turned 29. I was in a relationship with someone I loved who I truly considered my best friend (and he said the same, although I suppose in hindsight he was lying). I'm starting over. I don't know what to do. Does anyone have advice? I know I'll be okay I just don't even know where to start picking up the pieces. [/quote]

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