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[quote=Anonymous]So a new family moved into the neighborhood.  The mom and I hit it off and we have kids the same age.  I invited the parents and kids (as well as a couple other neighbors with kids the same age) over for an afternoon "playdate" with parents.  They came.

Another neighbor had a get-together - I talked to the host and told her about new neighbors and could I extend an invite.  host said yes, I invited new neighbors - told them it's a neighborhood party and they are welcome to come to meet the neighbors.  They said yes but never showed.

When I ran into mom, she apologized and said she totally forgot about it.

I invited mom to go out for drinks one night.  She said yes.  A few nights before the planned night out, I emailed her to talk about where and what time.  No response.  I called the night before we were supposed to go out and left a message (something like "Hi, just want to touch base to figure out where we want to go tomorrow night and what time works best for you.") No response, so obviously we didnt' go out.

They invited us to their house for dinner. We came and had a good time (I think???)

I saw her in the neighborhood and she says "DH is taking kids to MIL's on Saturday.  You want to get together for a drink that night?"  I say "Sure - when and where."  She says "I'll email you."  No email.  I follow up - no response to email or voicemail.

I don't stalk her and just let it go.  But when I see her again, I say "Sorry we weren't able to get together last week.  how are you? blah, blah, small talk..."

I saw her walking her dog up the street and wave.  She stops and says, "I would love to get together this weekend.  Are you available?"  I said I had to check with DH but will get back to her.  I emailed her that we weren't doing anything and would love to get together.

you guessed it - no response and no call for this past weekend.

So..... At this point, I'm a bit frustrated that she makes plans with me and then never follows through.  I am thinking that she is just trying to be nice and does't know what to say when she sees me (since we're neighbors we see each other a lot) so she just thinks it's small talk like "we need to get together sometime" but doesn't really mean it.  My DH thinks I should give her the benefit of doubt and think that she's maybe just flaky or disorganized.

I really like her.  The few times we did get together, I thought we clicked and really hit it off, but I don't want to be too pushy especially if she really doesn't like me - if that's the case, we can just be friendly neighbors.  But I just don't know how to read her mixed messages.

WDYT???[/quote]

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