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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry that some people are being very harsh on you here. However given the complexity of this topic, this kind of attitude is something you can expect if you go forward with donor eggs.

We conceived our DC using donor eggs, and baby #2 is on the way. I spent a couple of years coming to terms with having donor conceived children before we proceeded. I don't think this is a topic that can be taken lightly. There are lots of resources out there for recipient parents. IG has a huge community of recipient parents and donor conceived adults, and there are a lot of discussions taking place regarding anonymity, half siblings, etc. You need to educate yourself thoroughly.

Being completely anonymous in this day and age is not possible, and I hope your donor and you are both aware of that. Also, anonymity is not good for children, who may have curiosity or even the need to know their genetic roots for emotional or health reasons. Some donor conceived people want to know their half siblings, others don't, but you can't know what your child's preference will be (and it may change over time, too). If you're already a parent, then you know that we can't control who our children are and what they want. They have a mind of their own, as they should. So, you need to let go of what you want your kid to do or feel about their conception and genetic roots/relatives.

I recommend 1) doing more research, 2) speaking with a counselor who is an expert in this field, 3) coming to terms with everything that comes with having a donor conceived child and putting their best interests first, and if you decide to move forward  4) choosing a donor who is at the very least open ID (so open to contact when child is 18).

Good luck.[/quote]

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