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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you can't control what your child will decide to do. They'll be their own person, with the same rights to self-determination you have, not your possession. If you go the donor egg route, you really do need to pragmatically and [i]fully [/i]accept that you can't control this aspect, especially in these days of widely available DNA testing and matching. I get that it's hard. We're in the same situation right now you are, with one child that's from our own egg/sperm and looking at a potential second that would come to us via donor egg. But you owe it to your future child to work through your own issues about the manner of their conception. It's not something to hide; that approach is going to make your innocent child feel their birth is somehow shameful and secret, which should be the last thing any of us want for our beloved children however they come to us. [b]Any reputable fertility clinic can connect you with a good therapist to help you sort through these complicated emotions; please, for your own sake as well as that of any future child you may have, please talk to a professional about your concerns and fears.[/b][/quote]
I thought it was required[/quote]
I'm the PP and you're right that it is, but (at least in my experience) the requirement can be met by a brief 30-minute Zoom call with a licensed psychologist/therapist. It'd be very easy to just keep quiet about the kinds of concerns and thought-patterns OP is having, if you wanted to because you feared you'd be prevented from moving forward in the process. OP, I really think you'd be best served by a series of deep and honest conversations/sessions with a specialist in this field about your feelings and anxieties, not a rote checkbox session. Or at the very, very least look into fertility boards like those at Inspire or Reddit where you can hear from more intended parents who have been wrestling with these kinds of questions.[/quote
I’m confident that if she let this concern be known, she wouldn’t be permitted to move forward with receiving a donor egg. She’s not being upfront. [/quote]

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