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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for all the replies.

The marriage one is interesting and something I hadn't considered so I appreciate that. We were actually long distance our first two years of dating so I was hoping maybe some of that excitement would come back of missing each other and then finally seeing each other. We've also both been mainly WFH during the pandemic and definitely have felt very on top of each other and like we are always together and getting annoyed over petty things so I thought some distance may be welcome, but I will definitely keep your perspective in mind, PP.[/quote]

I think a little absence can make the heart grow fonder, but at the same time, this seems like a pretty optimistic take. The more you get used to doing things "your way" the greater the risk that when he comes home, he doesn't really have to participate in the routine and becomes less invested in family life. It depends I think on what 33% looks like in practice. My DH went to a lot of difficult-to-get-to places so he had to leave on Sunday afternoons/ evenings and that was a real bummer and cut into our family time.[/quote]

This happened to us - we developed routines that didn’t involve him, so when he was here he felt in the way (or useless), so he figured he might as well sign into work for just a minute.  Have some routines that you have two versions of: when he is home and when he is gone.

Never cal yourself a single mom.   You can say you are “solo parenting” for a week or whatever.

When he comes home, you will be thrilled and looking for a break.  He will be jet lagged, exhausted, and looking for a break.  That initial homecoming quickly turns into Suffering Olympics (I didn’t get to STTN because Baby!  Well, I have been on a plane for five hours!). So be kind to both of you in that moment. [/quote]

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