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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get where you’re coming from OP.

As a non-transgender person I would think the goal is transition and total passing and never or rarely having to identify yourself as a trans man or woman. Then you’d just be a man or woman without the trans identifier. But that’s not the case from what I see, being trans is an identity in and of itself to be proud of and claim.

I don’t know. I don’t understand most of it and that’s okay. I listen and try to be respectful. [/quote]

I’m not intending to be impolite but how would you accomplish that without cutting off ties to everyone you knew before transitioning? And your transitioning support group? Basically everyone who helped you get to the point where you’re comfortable presenting as the gender you identify as, they’d be cut off.

It’s not a dirty secret you have to keep hidden. It’s not dot ask don’t tell 90s in the military where you can be gay on the down low but not out and about. What if you have a big holiday party and your mom slips up and says little Timmy instead of little Tammy?

If people are accepting, there can be a way to keep pre transition friends and family in your life as well as new friends who only know you post transition. That’s when it becomes important to respect individual wishes about privacy. My son is open about it to people who have known him forever, but certainly doesn’t broadcast it to new people he meets. It’s not a secret, but it’s not like he wears a name tag that says I’m trans. There is a middle ground. [/quote]

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