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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sorry, but this is not "normal" and it doesn't happen with all or even majority of children (especially if past generations are taken into account). It might be common in a certain type of family but it's reprehensible behavior that should not be allowed (if only because parents dislike it) and would not have happened had there been some discipline in the past. [/quote]

When we say it's normal that doesn't mean we think it's acceptable or that we don't discipline for it.  It means we are trying to put it into a developmental context.  It means that children her age typically do it.

And when you say you don't "allow" this behavior, that makes no sense.  What do you do?  Have the child arrested?  Simply pretend it doesn't exist?[/quote]

Not the PP, but I agree that this type of "normal" only occurs in families that didn't get into the habit of discipline until their kids were way, way over the line.  This wouldn't be allowed in my home, and by that I mean that I would be stepping in long before it got the this point.  An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, and that is so applicable to preschoolers.  To address one of OP's examples, if I was having a playdate during the run-up dinner time (so my kid is tired and hungry and is struggling to navigate the social dynamic of having a friend over), I would be prepared for this to go south, so I would plan ahead with a snack at the beginning of the playdate, have an activity ready that I could supervise while prepping dinner, and have a talk with my kid in advance about what I expect from them during a playdate.  So I when I say that I "wouldn't allow" a 10-minute meltdown, I mean that I would have done all I could to put my kid in a place where they are set up to succeed, I would be close by monitoring the situation, and I would step in as soon as she got whiny, rather than waiting for the meltdown to happen and fighting the uphill battle that is a meltdown.[/quote]

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