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[quote=Anonymous]Well first of all, zero judgment from me on the late potty training. My DD also trained super late and I know how stressful it is when your kid doesn't train until after all their peers, no matter the reason. I get it, I've been there, I understand this phase well.

But second, I would not under any circumstances switch your son to pull ups a few days a week. You are correct he will view them as diapers and just go in them. But perhaps the bigger issue is that at 4, he will 100% understand that this is happening because he has accidents at your mom, and I'd really, really worry about this undermining his confidence in his potty training and wind up causing him to start having more accidents and regress. A lot. You really need him to know that he can do this, and that you believe he can do it.

You are at a critical juncture right now, and accidents are normal for a bit. But they do end. My experience with a late-to-train kid is that these accidents are probably essential for the child finally and definitely learning to anticipate when they have to go and getting to the potty on time. They need the discomfort to make that link in their minds. He has to go through this phase. Hopefully it will just last a few weeks (for my DD it was about 3 weeks of having accidents a couple times a week at preschool) but I think you should anticipate it lasting a few months for the purposes of planning what to do.

I think your options are as follows:
- Get a babysitter, just until your son is through this phase. Someone who will patiently handle the accidents and provide the necessary encouragement and reinforcement. This would be my first choice. Once the accidents are over, he can go back to your moms.
- Put him in cotton training pants, which are thicker than regular underwear and can make accidents easier to clean up. When my DD wore these under pair of pants, hardly any pee would wind up on anything other than her clothes.  It also was an incentive for her to stop having accidents because she knew the difference between these and regular underwear and wanted to graduate to regular underwear. But they still allowed her to feel her accidents and learn from them. Depending on what's going on with your mom, this might be enough to make the accidents bearable for a few weeks. Can she safely put him in a bath if he has an accident? Because it's the easiest way to deal with it.

Not sure what else to suggest. I know the childcare challenges well, too. Good luck to you! You will get through it. It's short-lived and then you'll finally have potty training behind you. But it's hard while your in it.[/quote]

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