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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in the same boat with my mother, but I get the added bonus that mom is an externalizer with depression and I am her scapegoat. Think rage fits. After years of trying to "rescue" her from her depression and her finally going on meds and then going off when she feels better (dozens of times) I have learned to set boundaries and detach with therapy for me. It's like dealing with an alcoholic. Sometimes they have to hit rock bottom to get help. Mom keeps reaching rock bottom and getting help and then stopping. Not my problem. I no longer tolerate being her verbal punching bag.[b] I have my own family I created and more stress than she could imagine. Honestly I have stopped reinforcing it any way. [/b]The only time I cheer her on is when she says she is getting help. Otherwise I change subject and leave. Don't go down with the ship![/quote]
Thanks so much. This is where I’m at—not reinforcing—and honestly, feeling so crappy each time. I don’t know why I try to make it my issue to solve. She won’t listen! But like you, I have my own life, and I have to focus on that. I just wish I didn’t let it make me feel like a horrible daughter. [/quote]

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