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[quote=Anonymous]my inlaws barage my son with gifts.  We have repeatedly asked them to stop.  Our house is small and we have no more room for trucks, cars, bikes, scooters, big fisher-price toys (like the batman "house").  We have asked them to stop, but they don't.  We've never said anything to them in front of my son.

Our son is responsible for his own toys.  He must make a place for them, store them, and take care  of them.  And, he has to write a thank you note each time he gets a gift.

Recently, my inlaws came over for dinner (again, no special occassion - just a Sunday dinner) and brought a big truck.  I mean, it's about 3 feet long!

To my SHOCK, my son said "No thank you."  That's it.  He wasn't excited, he wasn't mean about it, but just said "No, thank you."  They kept trying to give it to him and kept pushing, but he stood his ground.  Honestly, I was actually happy about it so I didn't intervene even though I think it's rude to refuse a gift.  But, a part of me thinks this rule is that you're not supposed to refuse a gift because you think it's cheap or not good enough or something like that.  A part of me thinks this is different.  It's not insulting the gift-giver by saying you're gift isn't good enough, it's saying "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!"

I later asked my son why he didn't wnat the truck and he said he has too many, doesn't know where to keep it and didn't want to write another thank you note.  I'm sure it was mostly not to write the thank you note, but my DS was also thinking "where in the world will I put this thing?"

Needless to say my in-laws were very offended and kept talking about it all through dinner.  They told DS that they were "sad" that he didn't want their gift and now don't know what to get him from now on (implying that he'll no longer get gifts from them).  They even told DS to "just play with it while we eat, and you might really like it."  which of course pissed me off because DS has to sit with us through dinner - he's not allowed to get up and play while we're eating.  but that's not the point.

would you intervene and tell DS it's rude and suck it up and keep the gift that none of you want in your house or would you defend your DS and tell in-laws that they are too excessive and need to stop.

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