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We were having an argument and he called me the b word. I basically lost it and started yelling at him to stop calling me that. He told me to shut up which infuriated me even more. He closed the door in my face and I got angry and threw his shoes at the door. He called me crazy and left the house.

I am so embarrassed at behaving that way. But he often calls me a b-word when things get heated. And I’ve told him multiple times to please not call me that. I recently had a miscarriage and he has been so supportive through everything that I was so shocked and hurt when he resorted to demean me by using that one ugly simple word.

I feel so embarrassed to have acted so crazy. Ugh.

So horrible!  :( [/quote]

When you've asked him to stop calling you that word, what does he say?

Obviously, you two need ground rules for arguments.

What's happening OP, is that your DH is saying something disrespectful, you're responding by flying off the handle, he then has the high ground to divert attention to your lack of self-control, and *not* where it should be-- the fact that he started it by calling you a demeaning word. I bet this is a pattern.

Sit him down calmly, tell him that if he calls you names or disrespectful during an argument, you're going to remain calm and leave the room. If he doesn't get the message, you might leave the marriage. Mean it. [/quote]

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