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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well one of the threads on here nails one of the many reasons we could have a nervous breakdown...

delusional parents determined to age in place in houses that need tons of upkeep and have crazy steps and few of the amenities needed to age in place....and we live closest and they don't hesitate to call for every "emergency." Mention a fancy assisted living or continued care and tantrum city.[/quote]

Oh, and add to this those 'well meaning' people who call YOU cruel for even SUGGESTING a change in living arrangement
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OMG...Amen to that. I had one parent who was behaving in a severely mentally ill manner from dealing with the other's decline. The caregiver was becoming verbally abusive on a regular basis to the caree. We got lots of help in the house and found day programs which helped, but as the care-receiver declined it was just too much...really for anyone and clearly for the caregiver. I was DEMONIZED for pushing for Memory care. The entire family was informed of how horrible I was. I have enough class that I could not bare to reveal just how outright abusive the care-receiver was which was observed and noted by professionals. I didn't not want to start the drama. Things declined more and finally the caregiver was ready to consider memory care, but by then it was too late and the caregiver refused to accept a nursing home was the only option. it was a mess and let me tell you the care-receiver was MUCH happier and calmer when away from the caregiver. Oh and don't get me started when the care-receiver was toward the end unable to do anything independently and at the hospital on a feeding tube. Caregiver refused to listen to hospice and let care-receiver go peacefully. Nope, care-receiver was kept alive in misery until the last moment. And I am the bad guy for pushing caregiver to listen to hospice-the experts who believed in humane treatment at the end. [/quote]

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