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[quote=Anonymous]My son is like this. First off, he doesn't hate school it turns out. "Hate" has more of a meaning for adults than for kids -- just like when a 4 year old uses the word "stupid," they have no idea what it truly means. It turns out he prefers to stay home with me and likes that better. He gets 1 on 1 attention and is pampered all day, of course he loves it.

What's helped is reframing -- "you don't hate school, you'd just rather be home with me. I'd rather be home with you than go to work, but I have to go to work and you have to go to school." I try to empathize.

We also write stories about how he feels in school. Turns out he hates lunchtime because it is loud and the other kids eat in a messy way. But talking through that helps. Other parts of the day he loves. Then we can talk about the good things too.

Also, on Mondays and Wednesdays he gets to watch a movie. I tell him Mondays are hard for everyone and we deserve a treat for getting through Monday and Hump Day. But he only gets it if he goes to school. If he stays home he doesn't get the treat.

This only will work if the school is good and a good fit.

PS -- MANY kids have meltdowns at drop offs. Unfortunately. Then are fine 5 minutes later. That's just a fact of life for some kids I think. So you may have to give up fighting it and make peace with it (sorry).

PPS -- 3.5 seems young to be doing letters/numbers, but that's just my opinion. I like play based better.[/quote]

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