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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We pay for everything with my MIL with also the expectation that we will take care of her in old age. We have been paying MIL about $500-1000 a month to do a date night every Friday. She only wants to stay for 2 hours and she wants us to pay for her uber there and back or pick her up because she doesn't love driving. I found out my husband gave her $1500 for Christmas as a gift. I just feel... it's excessive. We have two young kids. I am ok with about $500 a month. I don't want to use our entire childcare budget on her. I prefer to use sitters so it's not this type of situation where she wants a ride (she lives 20 min away). [/quote]

Taking the babysitting issue out of the equation, I have to ask, is your DH her only child?  Because if he’s not and you’re giving her all this cash every month, it really needs to turn into a formal arrangement where you keep track of what you’re giving her and get the money back as part of her estate.  That’s a lot of money to give someone every month so you and DH need to agree on a set amount and stop pretending it’s for services rendered.

It also sounds like your MIL is too old to babysit and y’all should find a better babysitting solution.  I would assume she’s telling the truth if she tells you that she’s not comfortable driving at night.  I would  also assume she has a 2 hour limit bc she gets tired.  It’s better for all of you if someone else watches the kiddos.[/quote]

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