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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop looking at the negatives at work and start looking at the positives - it's your attitude that's killing you, not your job.  Make a list of at least 5 positives - you state that you have hardworking co-workers, so that's one.  And you're worried about losing your job or taking a paycut, so obviously your paycheck is a positive.  Find three more.  And then make a list of 5 little things that you can do to make your work environment more enjoyable - bring in a cut flower, listen to music, hang a pretty picture, read a book or fun magazine at lunch, etc.  And stop keeping track of who is treated poorly or how others behave; concentrate on yourself.  Finally, go out and buy Burns' "Feeling Good" to read about how your mindset effects your mood and what you can do to change it.  Do it for your family.[/quote]

Obviously, you have never had a job you hated but had to stay there because you need the money.  I had a job where my boss (who kept telling me I was doing a wonderful job) decided he wanted his office girlfriend to have my job.  Suddenly, with no reason, he began to criticize everything I did, talked about me in meetings, lied, and he and his girlfriend set me up for stealing.  Luckily, for me,I had an emergency out  of town when I was supposed to have "stolen" the money.  I still left because I was so damn miserable.  Sometimes, the negatives are so bad there is nothing else.

OP, if you can't afford counselling, many ministers or churches have free counseling.  Start there and good luck.  Having a job you hate is living hell.  [/quote]

This.

The fact that you are afraid of getting fired if they find out you are looking for something else seems to be all the more reason to look. You sound depressed and seem to feel your situation is hopeless and therefore stay in your miserable situation -- not like battered spouse syndrome or think elephant tied to a stake in the ground with a string so it won't escape but maybe similar psychology? Remember this is temporary, as a PP pointed out, and get the heck out of there ASAP. It is bad for you mentally. And that will end up being bad for you in other ways, too as you are realizing this is creeping into your personal life.[/quote]

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