Anonymous wrote:Obviously, you have never had a job you hated but had to stay there because you need the money. I had a job where my boss (who kept telling me I was doing a wonderful job) decided he wanted his office girlfriend to have my job. Suddenly, with no reason, he began to criticize everything I did, talked about me in meetings, lied, and he and his girlfriend set me up for stealing. Luckily, for me,I had an emergency out of town when I was supposed to have "stolen" the money. I still left because I was so damn miserable. Sometimes, the negatives are so bad there is nothing else. "

Actually, I have, and I know how shitty it can be. But I gave OP the tough love speech because she's wallowing in her situation rather than doing something about it. She's the only one who can do something about it, and I do think her attitude (keeping track of what happens to others? not getting therapy because DH won't allow it?) is making things worse. She needs to be responsible for her own happiness, which means asserting her needs and changing her attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop looking at the negatives at work and start looking at the positives - it's your attitude that's killing you, not your job. Make a list of at least 5 positives - you state that you have hardworking co-workers, so that's one. And you're worried about losing your job or taking a paycut, so obviously your paycheck is a positive. Find three more. And then make a list of 5 little things that you can do to make your work environment more enjoyable - bring in a cut flower, listen to music, hang a pretty picture, read a book or fun magazine at lunch, etc. And stop keeping track of who is treated poorly or how others behave; concentrate on yourself. Finally, go out and buy Burns' "Feeling Good" to read about how your mindset effects your mood and what you can do to change it. Do it for your family.

Obviously, you have never had a job you hated but had to stay there because you need the money. I had a job where my boss (who kept telling me I was doing a wonderful job) decided he wanted his office girlfriend to have my job. Suddenly, with no reason, he began to criticize everything I did, talked about me in meetings, lied, and he and his girlfriend set me up for stealing. Luckily, for me,I had an emergency out of town when I was supposed to have "stolen" the money. I still left because I was so damn miserable. Sometimes, the negatives are so bad there is nothing else.

OP, if you can't afford counselling, many ministers or churches have free counseling. Start there and good luck. Having a job you hate is living hell.

Anonymous wrote:Stop looking at the negatives at work and start looking at the positives - it's your attitude that's killing you, not your job. Make a list of at least 5 positives - you state that you have hardworking co-workers, so that's one. And you're worried about losing your job or taking a paycut, so obviously your paycheck is a positive. Find three more. And then make a list of 5 little things that you can do to make your work environment more enjoyable - bring in a cut flower, listen to music, hang a pretty picture, read a book or fun magazine at lunch, etc. And stop keeping track of who is treated poorly or how others behave; concentrate on yourself. Finally, go out and buy Burns' "Feeling Good" to read about how your mindset effects your mood and what you can do to change it. Do it for your family.