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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So it’s clear by now that DS11 is a homebody and while he can enjoy an outing, especially with a friend, he gets tired/bored after a couple hours and he never wants to go (I tell him we are going and we go and he does or doesn’t have fun). 
I have been dragging him places for years, with mixed success. I am glad we built memories but this year I am stressed because all the covid changes, job loss, finalizing divorce, etc. I don’t really want to take him anywhere. 
We will be doing a couple of big trips a year but mostly because I need to take care of my parents and have nobody to leave him with (his dad is not up for the task). I will sneak in some sightseeing around these trips. Otherwise I think I will call it a day in terms of taking him to amusement parks, nature spots, or really anywhere. 
I will sign him up for maybe 1 or 2 activities in January- May but that’s it.
Do you think it’s horrible or can I just let it go? He is welcome to go with friends when he is older, I will pay for it. But I don’t want to be disappointed again if I take him and he doesn’t even appreciate it. [/quote]

What sort of places have you been "dragging" him to?  What interests does he have?  Maybe present him with several options and let him pick the activity.  For example, with your upcoming trip, present him with what sightseeing options there are and see what he chooses or help him investigate the area's things to do and let him be part of the planning from the start.

Being a homebody and/or not liking to be in crowds and having interests and friends is very different than not want to be around people and just be alone with no interests or hobbies.  My son was/is very much a homebody.  He enjoys going out occasionally, but mostly has people over here ALL the time.  Sometimes they stay for days and I have to tell my son to send them home.  He has a few restaurants he likes to go to but prefers to either takeout food or getting groceries and cooking for a group.  He would rather have 3 or 4 friends over to play video games than go to a party.   After prom was out our house, homecoming was at our house, etc.  He just feels more comfortable here and doesn't like crowds.   [/quote]

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