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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. Good post PP. Let’s also acknowledge that trans activists and allies are confusingly inconsistent about lots of their claims. Sometimes people insist that being trans is not a choice, and everyone is simply “born that way,” while other times people say that gender is fluid for everyone and changes over a lifetime. I don’t fault people for being inconsistent in describing themselves or their changing perspective. I do find it obnoxious gatekeeping when people criticize others without acknowledging that inconsistency. [/quote]

This is because transgender used to mean a specific thing.  That is, a binary person that feels like they were born the wrong sex.  Inside, they don’t feel comfortable and want to be the opposite gender than the one assigned at birth.  I saw a YouTube video of a trans woman that said she thought all boys wanted to be girls when she was  little and it was just something boys had to deal with.  Every birthday when she blew out her candles, she wished to be turned into a girl.  Now as an adult she is transitioning.  So that’s still binary gender.  Now trans is being used as an umbrella term to include a lot of other people like enbies, gender fluid, and other non binary people.  So that may be the reason for the confusion and strange gatekeeping.  When someone says they are trans (like the person I described) people assume either MTF or FTM but now that it’s become a more inclusive umbrella term, people really need to explain what they mean by trans.  Which isn’t really something you’d think would be necessary but it is what it is.  Most trans people are hesitant to gatekeep the term because of how difficult their lives are just being the way they are and they don’t want to make other people’s lives more difficult.[/quote]
Agree that the language is imprecise and undergoing change, which adds to the complexity. Disagree about trans people being hesitant to gatekeep; in my experience, many are very quick to gatekeep. Perhaps it’s just that some people - whether trans or not - can be obnoxious know-it-alls who like to gatekeep because they like how it allows them to feel superior. [/quote]

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