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[quote=Anonymous]OP it's impossible for us to help you diagnose your friend, and it's confusing to us why think it would be helpful to do so. You are not a mental health professional, and your friend is already under the care of a mental health professional and presumably a medical doctor if she is medicated. That's really not your role in her life.

But I can say that your OP and follow ups contain some classic signs of codependency and enabling behavior. A very, very common dynamic is where one person had mental health needs and concerns, and the other person is simultaneously trying to meet those needs while also judging/resenting that those needs exist. This might be the most common codependent relationship, especially between friends!

The best thing to do is to step back, remind yourself that your friend's mental health is not your responsibility, and set some healthy boundaries for yourself. I really suggest you learn to let go of your judgment, need to categorize your friend, or need to create a narrative for your relationship that casts your friend as a villain and you as a savior hero. Whatever is going on with her, it's her problem to solve and to live with. You can empathize and provide kindness and support, but you don't have to take her problems on as your own.[/quote]

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