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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^I think this is a common reason why friendships break up despite best intentions. For most people they don't even last 10-12 years because differences start coming up even in your 20s-early 30s like wanting to go to different restaurants or vacation differently etc. Seems like you guys made it way past that stage into your 40s.

But I've seen differences then creep up in the 40-50s too -- [b]like if one friend is just trying to make good $$$ and solidify their own future/kids' education/retirement -- and the other friend has decided those things don't matter as much as "doing good in the world." [/b] Often the person just trying to make money isn't the one criticizing; often its the do-good person who is constantly looking at and making passive aggressive digs bc you chose to move to a nice town; good school district; send kids to private k-12; send kids to private colleges; retire early or whatever it may be and obviously being the person "on the defensive" for just living your life doesn't make for a good friendship.[/quote]

Everyone wants to solidly their kids and their own future. Some people don’t have the luxury of doing it in only the way you describe. Most don’t have the luxury of doing it that way at all. People working to change the world have made it possible for you to do many of the things you want and to make good money in the way that you do. They are the reason for the laws that protect you. I understand that you don’t want this awareness baked into your relationships. But you aren’t “just living your life.” You are enjoying the benefits of the efforts of people like the “do-gooder” friend. [/quote]

Pp here - I get it. But it’s not as if I say she shouldn’t being doing good or she needs to get a corporate job too so she can make money etc. She can live how she wants. What I don’t want is to be criticized ALL THE TIME for living how I want, which BTW is nice but nothing overly flashy. I’m not exactly a hedge fund manager or biglaw partner - we’re talking line attorney in house at a financial co with a good 401k, standard house in the suburbs etc. Nor am I doing anything like talking about flashy vacations or insisting that we drop $500 at dinner. I’m still the person who wants to chat for an hour over a burger at a bar.[/quote]

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