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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know, that part of her blaming you is normal.  It's also normal to be mostly mature and then have burst of immaturity also.

I don't want to go so far as to say your DD is fine, because I'm not a psychologist AND don't know her. But therapy is not going to make her never have fights with you. She HAS to have fights with you sometimes to establish her independence from you as her own person. [/quote]

OP here, I agree with the basics of what you are saying, and its not that I think we should never have fights.

But she also has a history of suicidal statements and self harm. So I have to take incidents a bit more seriously than maybe someone with no such history.

[b]I am not seeing where and how these patterns are going to mature if they don't see the light of day[/b].[/quote]

I can definitely understand that you worry more because of her history.  One of the things i noticed with one of my own daughters, was she thought it was a problem if she got the tiniest bit uncomfortable. I had to teach her to live in uncomfortable moments, that humans are meant to feel the full spectrum of emotions.  And kids mature simply with the passage of time - their brain is literally not finished developing.  [/quote]

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