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[quote=Anonymous]OP, my kid who is like this is younger, but has lots of the same patterns. I'd suggest that rather than cutting her slack re: the chores she agreed to in the interest of harmony, you work to implement slightly more structure and accountability. For my kid, she gets way up in her own head after she's done the chore a few times and then stops doing it and, although she is not generally able to recognize this, the lashing out at me is basically her being mad at herself that she didn't follow through. And the longer that "limbo" period is, the madder she is at herself (and at me, because she thinks I'm just as mad at her as she is at herself). Anyway, I've found that applying some sort of accountability mechanism right away does not allow for those negative and critical thoughts to fester and can actually start to create a positive reinforcement cycle. Just a thought. [/quote]
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