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[quote=Anonymous]You have to learn to not let the attitude impact your parenting. Keep up with the natural consequences. If he stares you down or talks back, ignore it and go on with your day.

Keep in mind kids this age learn behavior over a matter of months and years, not days or even weeks. If you start escalating punishments as some PPs suggest, you will quickly find yourself with nowhere to go.

Model calm, respectful behavior. Be polite to him even when he is rude to you, so that he learns what it means to be polite. Be patient with him when he is impatient, so he sees what patience is. Etc.

You do not want to get into a battle of wills with a 3 yo. You will lose even if you win, and odds are good you won’t win! Ignore the defiant attitude as a quirk if the age and just keep up what you are doing. It will probably get worse before it gets better. But you are the adult. Show him what it is to be reasonable, calm, respectful, etc. And when he really pushes your buttons, say “Ok I’m feeling too upset to talk about this now, I’m going to take a break. And then do.”[/quote]

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