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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old is your kid?  Is he/she actually asking this, or are you trying to figure out what to say when the question does come up?  Were you married or involved for a long time, or is the kid the product of a short-term relationship?  (no judgment here - i got pregnant the *first* time I had sex with my ex; our relationship didn't withstand the surprise pregnancy.)

I'm not sure what to say.  For a slightly older kid, something fairly close to the truth might work.  "Having children is a big commitment. Your dad just wasn't ready for it.  I was disappointed in him, but unfortunately, that's just the way it is.  But you have me, and great family and friends - that's really all we need." [b] For a young kid, you might just say, "Your dad lives in [wherever he lives]" and tell him/her about that state and point to it on the map.  maybe say, "we don't live with your dad - some families are just one mommy or one daddy, while some have one of each."
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I'm trying to figure out what the hell to say to my daughter if she ever asks why her dad and I don't live in the same house.  I'm also trying to figure out what to say if she ever asks if Dad and I were married, because we weren't.  I really don't want to go down the "you were an accident, but an ultimately-awesome one" road.  Ugh.  on the bright side, my situation could make for a great "hey, birth control is not foolproof" argument.  lol.  Good luck.[/quote]

I think the bolded part is great advice.[/quote]

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