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[quote=Anonymous]I think luck is often involved such as being in the right place at the right time, but I also think for some it is a deliberate effort. There are women who date, and then there are women who date to marry. It's kind of like people who go to college unsure of what they want to major in and what career they want versus people who know before they even step onto campus that they want to become a doctor or lawyer. Their motivation and journey are very different.

I think you are at a point in your life where you now want to date to marry. I would begin my writing down a list of not only the qualities you want in a husband and partner, but also what kind of life do you want: kids? city/suburbs? working full time/part time/ SAHM? That can further help you figure out what you want/need in a husband.

Then read [i]Why Men Love B*tches[/i]. It's a very old book, but I cannot explain how it changed my dating mindset and understanding of what men find engaging in a woman. Don't worry, the word "b*tch" means a bad b*tch not the negative connotation.

Then start going on lots of dates whether that is through friends' setups or online dating, but keep in my mind what you have decided you want/need in a partner. Don't immediately discount someone who doesn't quite fit, but think about how that would affect your marriage and life you want to build. For example, your former abusive partner- would you want to raise children with this person? Would you want your son to start emulating some of his abusive behaviors? This is not meant to shame you, but to remind you that you're not just looking for a present relationship but a future marriage and life together.

You are still very young OP and will undoubtedly meet and marry someone. You just might have to put in more effort than others, but it doesn't mean your outcome won't be as wonderful. Good luck! [/quote]

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