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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like your child had other issues, PP.  This is not the norm by any means.  Most kids like pull ups because they’re the easiest.  The path of least resistance.  They can pee while not stopping what they’re doing.

So yes, I stand by my advice to get rid of all pull ups unless your child has anxiety issues like yours did. [/quote]

Here is what OP said about her own child:

[quote]I realize he is way behind, however we tried potty training him earlier but he refused. He would cry and have a meltdown if I suggested using the potty so I didn't want to make it traumatic/scary by forcing him. It's only been as of the past few weeks he's been open to it. Now he's doing great and I'm just trying to figure out the next step.[/quote]

This is incredibly common with older kids who parents attempted to train when they were younger and they just flat out refused. Now, I don't know OP's kid, maybe if she said "Ok, starting this weekend we're not using pull ups anymore, no more pull ups!" maybe he's in a place where he would accept that and it would be okay. But if in the past he has had total meltdowns about the suggestion of using the potty, there's a good chance he is very attached to pull ups and would freak out at this.

Which is why I am saying that if you did not potty train a reluctant-to-train child who trained later, then your assumption that the problem is simply the availability of pull ups is incorrect. People think that the issue is just you need to take the pull ups away and then the child will suddenly sit on the potty, and they don't understand what it is like to actually work with a child like this. It's not mechanical.

Plus, if OP is seeing success with the potty right now while her son is still in pull ups, that means he has learned to use the potty despite the presence of pull ups. At some point they have to take them away, yes. But doing it too soon could result in the child freaking out, which could undo all the tentative progress he has made.

People need to stop suggesting this to tired, frustrated parents who are dealing with hard-to-train older kids. It's crap advice. You do not know what you are talking about.
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