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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. She is beautiful and has a lovely figure (she is a dancer and swimmer). I feel like the shorts and crop tops look trashy honestly. I would never say this to her. I say things like "too revealing" or "too mature." I bought a couple of "tasteful" crop tops at the beginning of the season at her begging and hoping that that would shut her up. It didn't and she has since bought several more at Target with her own money. After purchasing yet another couple today at Target with friends, I told her "I think that's enough crop tops." She was horribly offended and stormed upstairs. [/quote]

I think the issue is that you haven’t engaged her in a real dialogue about what she’s wearing. You tossed out a judgment that landed like a grenade.

First thing to do is to get yourself together and work to remove the judgment. Get it off your facial expressions and your tone and your words. Then approach her to say that you want to sit down and have a conversation where you and she can work out an agreement about what she wears. One way you can show you respect her is to ask her what outfits she likes. Why does she like them? Where does she get her ideas from about how to dress. Listen and stay focused on simply understanding her. Again, no judgment. Then share where you are. You can share your discomfort with particular shorts. What can you live with? What exactly is a non-starter-never-leave-the-house outfit? Which ones do you like? Which ones are just not appealing to you, but you don’t care if she wears because you know you don’t want to make everything an issue? Talk calmly with her. If you feel like your buttons are getting pushed, take a break and say you’ll come back to it. I’m confident you can talk with her and figure out what outfits can work for both of you. [/quote]

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