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[quote=Anonymous]Two years ago, on my wedding anniversary, I found out my husband had a month long affair with a colleague. The affair ended immediately upon my finding out. It was devastating for me. We are reconciling. My husband was/is remorseful and has put a lot of work into saving our marriage. We are in a good—maybe even better—place than we were before the affair. 
However, I consider the anniversary of the day I found out about the affair to be the worst day of my life. It gives me PTSD just thinking about it. I don’t want to celebrate my wedding anniversary. Last year, I just told my husband I didn’t want to celebrate and he was sad but obliged. The Day came and went without any acknowledgment, per my request. 
I honestly cry every time I think about it and don’t want to commemorate the date again, maybe ever. But is that being petty? Is it keeping us from moving on when we have in every other way? I don’t want to make this into a big deal, but I also can’t bring myself to celebrate a day that was so painful for me. 
It’s been two years. 
It will be our 20th anniversary next week. 
Any thoughts? Do I just suck it up and do whatever he plans? [/quote]

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