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[quote=Anonymous]I left someone like this. But I do not think he was a narcissist. They are easier to divorce if you let them get their way...within reason. I did. I got less but it was worth it and he is easier to coparent with now. Fighting tooth and nail with someone like this is not worth it. What is worth it is getting out within reasonable fairness even if it was not completely fair. The divorce would have been bad if I did not do it the way I did it. It was a relatively ok divorce because I did not do it by fighting with the full force of the law. I got about 40% rather than 50% and an easier person to coparent with. It was worth it.

You might be surprised that he may be willing to do 50/50 with everything. Do not assume it is going to be a horrible fight. It might be but you have the power to control that to a degree. People have to know who they are divorcing and what their best outcome will be. Fighting tooth and nail--especially with this kind of person--is not worth it. Ask what they want. Go from there. I would try to do collaborative divorce. Mediation may not work well. It "worked" for me but I knew I was going to get less going in otherwise it was going to be an all-out war. My concern was having to coparent for many more years and that was a key factor in how I divorced. [/quote]

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