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[quote=Anonymous]DH told me several months ago that he wants to end the marriage after more than 15 years. According to him, basically everything was my fault and I should have known he was unhappy. I'm accepting my part in this, but it has been an emotional roller coaster. We're still living in the same house (sleeping in separate rooms) with no actual separation date in sight. I've wondered about infidelity on his part but haven't been able to confront him directly. The one time I tried, he refused to answer because he thought I wasn't getting the larger issue of why he was unhappy with our marriage. I strongly suspect something is going on and have a big urge to confront him again. I guess I'm hesitant because I know he will react in a very unfavorable way to the question, and this could damage the fragile equilibrium we have at home with our DC. Right now we're very civil to each other most of the time. If I bring up this question, I think the civility will go out of the window for a while. There won't be huge arguments, probably just the silent treatment. So, that's why I'm hesitant. On the other hand, of course, these questions nag at me, and it's hard for me behave as if everything's okay. Should I just hang in there quietly until we actually separate? This has been so hard. It shakes one's foundation. I can relate to and appreciate what I've read in some similar threads. TIA for any advice or similar experiences.[/quote]

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