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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think you will get any thoughtful answers about the specific mental health struggles that cause someone to be a secret partner to a married person.  I suspect it's a combination of feeling special, enjoying the excitement of sneaking around, and the combination of those making her feel like it's him and her against the world... That nobody will understand their love.  That kind of feeling is like a drug and is very hard up let go of.  [b]This is especially true when you have any kind of self-hatred or worthlessness feelings. The "special" feeling masks the pain until eventually the shame takes over.  But then the worthlessness feeling is even more profound and so back to craving that "special" feeling again.  It's a cycle of mental health crisis, addiction, fallout, repeat.[/b][/quote]

There is a lot of self-delusion too.  They walk around appearing to be 'oh so happy and together', oh so charitable and decent...it masks a sh*tload of dysfunction.[/quote]

I don't know how anyone hidden and not take out in the real world and used for a 30-40 min session in a hotel or back of a car feels 'special'.  That is some serious self-delusion and willingness to believe lies like 'you are my soulmate. i would leave my wife but I can't do that to my kids'.  blah, blah, blah...rinse, repeat.[/quote]

It's dysfunction meeting dysfunction in a wonderfully dramatic histrionic personality disordered world.[/quote]

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