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[quote=Anonymous]well, for me it depends on the relationship between the person.  If they are younger - or kids of friends or neices/nephews or someone I know doesn't have a lot of money to spend on gifts then, no, I don't expect a gift back and will probably continue to give a gift the next year.

but, (and i'll probably get slammed for this but whatever) if all things are relatively equal, I do look at receiving gifts as sort of a guide to where I "rank" in that friend's life.  I don't buy gifts for all friends, acquaintences, etc. but I'll try and find something special for the closer friends in my life.  I know everyone sort of does that - you have to stop gift-giving at somebody (similar to wedding invites - there's a cut-off) and it is telling and a little bit hurtful if I go out of my way to find that extra special something for you because you're in my "inner circle" for example, and it's clear that I didn't make the "inner circle" cut with you, I'll likely not only be not giving you a gift next year, but probably not be calling you to confide in you, or share personal things with you in the future because I'll feel like I'm merely an acquaintance to you, but you were a dear close friend of mine.

That being said, if you were a close friend, I'd probably know  if this year you aren't buying gifts for any non-family or that you're swamped and couldn't get all the gifts you wanted to get this year.  And also, gifts don't have to be store bought - I'd feel like you thought of me if you gave me a framed nice picture of your kid or took me out for a drink or lunch for a christmas gift or offered to babysit my kids.....

To me, it really is the thought that counts, but if you don't reciprocate, there's no thought that went into it.  [/quote]

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