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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not talking about a true emergency such as having a sick child. Those things happen to all of us and of course I understand that. But in the moms' group I am part of, it seems that there are multiple last-minute cancellations for every single event. They are not all sick children. Usually people put forth some sort of excuse, even if it's just "something came up," but I'm fairly certain that these are not all what I would consider legitimate excuses. I find this rude, especially to the person who is hosting the event, and particularly if the person is hosting the event in their home (as many of them are). Most of the playdate-type events are limited to a certain number of moms, for space reasons, and although there is a waiting list system, a very last-minute cancellation (e.g. late the night before or morning of) keeps other people from attending. I live in a townhouse and have been limiting it to 3 other moms, but inevitably only 2 will show. A lot of times people will RSVP to a playdate based in part on the ages and sexes of the other children who will be there, so if someone doesn't show up, the mix of kids might be awkward. Which again, is fine if there is a legitimate reason for the cancellation, but otherwise it is rude. I host a playdate every other week, and I am rushing around like a madwoman trying to get things cleaned up before people come over, and then I get these last-minute cancellations and I'm like, why do I even bother if people consider my time less valuable than theirs?

I'm not exaggerating when I say that there is at least one and usually multiple cancellations for each event, no matter who is hosting. I think some of the other hosts are bothered by it too -- as the people who cancel at the last minute tend not to be the ones who host. Am I expecting too much for people to follow through on their commitments? I have read threads about this happening for birthday parties too, which is part of the reason we have never hosted one. I would hate for any of my kids to be so excited about a party and then have people flake out at the last minute. Am I wrong that this is exceedingly rude, whether for a birthday party or any other event for which you have made a commitment to attend? [/quote]

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