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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please define non-monogamous.[/quote]

?  That you have decided not to commit to monogamy with one person - with honesty.  It's not cheating or adultery because you never made that promise in the first place - and were clear about that.[/quote]

Just making sure.

Yes, but men are wary of this, they don’t believe you’re open to it without some later repercussion or ulterior motive. I think a lot of men truly believe women cannot manage an open relationship with honest and respect.  I’ve only had it twice. One man I dated he was dating someone else, and he let me know. He let both of us know. I really appreciated that. It was respectful, normal and there were no deceptions.

Long term my preference is monogamy but who is to say what that means post-divorce? Hell, I’m still figuring it out. I have always respected the idea of open relationships because when the love is real and the door is open, no one is going anywhere. And it is honest, based on reality, not some illusion in your mind of what it would take to be perfect and to your standard (which is often myopic and flawed)

That is a rare level of realization for a lot of people — especially women — that connect emotionally and mentally/physically with others. Not all women can truly court a person, then date, then commit. Priorities differ person to person and things that are unfamiliar can feel threatening.

I greatly respect the guy that had the balls to be straightforward, and real with me and the other woman he had met right around the same time. [/quote]

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