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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel for you, OP. I also had 8 rounds of IVF and several rounds of medicated IUIs between ages 40 and 44.  I had one chemical, five day five embryos to PGS test abnormal, and around  15 day three embryos that were transferred over several IVF rounds that resulted in.....nothing. After my last round of IVF failed, I decided to consider DE because I was exhausted, broke, and emotionally drained. It's taken me many months to come around to it, and that's with seeing a therapist who specializes in infertility issues.

I think my thought process has been that I want a baby and I 've been trying for one for a really long time. If I have one using DE, I still get to be pregnant, still get to have this baby from birth, and it will still be genetically linked to my husband. Of course the downsides are (this is just what's in my head - not everyone feels this way about it, at all) that you lose the genetic link, and that essentially, you have a baby that is your husband's/partner's and biologically someone else's. But, again, I keep coming back to that I still get to have a baby that I raise from birth and who is linked to my husband.

Also, it can take a while depending on if you use fresh or frozen. I have actually not started the process yet as I've been in research mode (fresh vs frozen, success rates, unknown/known donor, which clinic, what tests are needed, etc.). From what I've read, fresh have a slightly higher success rates, and if you want bio siblings you can do a 1:1 fresh cycle where you get all of the eggs (although you don't know how many the donor will produce). Or you can buy multiple lots of frozen for that purpose. Frozen are faster because they're already in the bank and ready to go, and you know how many eggs are there.

There's so much to think about :) I hope that the journey goes well for you![/quote]

OP here - yes! This is so similar to my story! Most women seem to have a baby within 1-3 cycles, so I feel like such an outlier. Thanks for replying - I hate that you had to go through this but it's comforting that I'm not alone. I'm sorry it didn't work for you, but best of luck as you move forward! [/quote]

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