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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are times when you need to be the heavy parent, just like in the pre-"positive parenting" era.

I have never tolerated whining in my kids, because for me it's like nails on a chalkboard. They stopped when I yelled at them furiously in the scariest voice I could muster. It only took one time, and when I heard incipient signs of whining after that, all I had to do was bend down menacingly and threaten them. One of my kids was very clingy (and still is), but I instituted a period of quiet time, first in her crib, then out of it, at lunch time so I could have some time to myself for an hour.

I relax rules on many things, but behavior is not one of them. When I tell them to do something, they do it.[/quote]

I used to yell.  Post partum anxiety or depression or bad coping skills on my part or frustration with other things beyond my control, or some combination of the above.  For me yelling wasn't effective (just upset the kids more and they got louder the louder I got) or healthy (for me and my situation).  I haven't yelled in 2 years I'm am damn proud of myself.  Instead I withdraw emotionally (and sometimes I physically leave when I can't handle it anymore).  I'm sure someone can tell me why this is going to scar my kids, but I'm not yelling and for me that is progress.  But I get that everyone and every family is different.  Thank you for sharing.[/quote]

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