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[quote=Anonymous]I’m a boring lesbian with 2 kids and a wife. We’ve been together over 20 years. The overwhelming majority of our friends are straight moms/families because we’re connected through our kids and our work. But we do have lesbian friends, and of those, some have split with their partner/spouse and then started dating men.

I’ve often thought that if something awful (God forbid) were to happen to my wife, I’d probably end up in a relationship with a man. At this point in my life, it would just be easier to find a man with whom I could be compatible on many levels.

So why does this happen? My guess is that many lesbians are really more bisexual. I would say that’s probably true for me. I love my wife deeply and am attracted to her. And... I’m also attracted to men. But that attraction has never been any motivation to pursue relationships with them. It’s not something I’m repressing or hiding. It’s just not a part of who I am right now.

I don’t think the same is true for gay men. Or straight men, while we’re at it. I think they are hardwired for much clearer sexual attraction: I want this or I want that. I have never heard of a gay man who’s been in relationship with men then begin having a relationship with a woman. If a “straight” man begins having relationships with men, it’s something freeing. He’ll say he’s been gay all along and was repressing it. For women, it’s much more fluid. [/quote]

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