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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got accepted to Juilliard but instead went to a conservatory overseas, equally competitive.  I had very supportive parents, both professional musicians but not at the level I was aiming for and they knew that.  They never pushed me as I was very determined on my own. They tried to help me keep things in perspective and kept the rest of my life balanced and easy when competitions and performances were busy.  My mom passed away when I was in my early twenties but my Dad is still here and there was never any rift or issue between any of us.  
Truly, IMO to be a professional musician, Juliiard or no Juilliard, the kid has to have a fire under them without you pushing.  Then there is the normal parental help with meeting goals, organizing life goals versus social needs and wants etc.....all kids need help with that.  But the practice and desire for perfection where technique and performance skills are concerned, should come from them. 
FWIW - I am a professional musician, performing quite a bit and also on faculty at a university and coaching young performers - all of which make a nice living now for myself and my family ( hubbie plus three kids).  Very close to what I aimed for and I know much of that came from my parents so I am grateful.  [/quote]

Thank you.  This was very helpful.  It is my DC's perfectionism which gives us the most concern.  This is what I mean by pushing or not pushing DC.  I feel like the perfectionism is the hardest part of being a musician.  Not being a musician myself, I may be wrong, but that is what I see in our home.  I feel like most of the "pushing" we do is to help overcome the idea that DC has that DC must be perfect and any less is devastating.  So we end up helping to push through to get it perfect (which makes DC happy) or, alternatively, sometimes not pushing at all because we feel that the perfectionism is unwarranted or detrimental emotionally.  Do you understand?  Do you have any advice?  Is this level of perfectionism normal?  Do musicians this talented just go through this?  FYI, her teacher is Julliard trained and was raised in China with that piano technique as a child.[/quote]

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