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[quote=Anonymous]They were abusive when I was a kid, to me and my sister. It becomes so normalized, sometimes you don’t even realize it’s abuse. Then when I was an adult, they undermined me whenever they could.  I let a lot slide because my kids loved them. Then I noticed them playing favorites in an unhealthy way, favoring my oldest. At some point they crossed the line into emotional abuse of my kids. That was it. When we got there, I said enough and told them we needed to take a break,  and we canceled a trip.

In the same month, they decided not to go to my sister’s wedding. My sister and I had a long talk digging deep into our past and realized that a lot of our problems (we always had a rocky relationship) were because our mom would pit us against each other. Almost every time my sister and I had a rough patch, we were able to trace the source back to our mom. It’s like our mom couldn’t handle us getting along better with each other than we did with her. It really sucks to realize your mom feels threatened by her daughters having a healthy, happy relationship with each other.

My sister tried to make amends, but she was rebuffed. I feel so much happier without the drama. I can’t imagine letting them back in, because I can’t see it being healthy for me or my kids. But then again, they didn’t want the olive branch my sister offered, so they probably wouldn’t take mine either if I tried. So I guess we’re all good now. [/quote]

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