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[quote=Anonymous]Homophobic to me means: an intense fear or distaste for all persons and topics homosexual, possibly due (but not necessarily due) to repressed same sex attraction.

I know homophobes exist. I have not yet had the misfortune of meeting one.

What I see a lot, though,  is the term being used immediately without any such burden of proof whatsoever. So, when a parent merely said that perhaps their child was confused about being gay or bi, the use of the word "confused" was enough for another poster to speculate they were homophobic, despite the posters explanation, and then someone else jumped in to confirm that the post was "definitely" homophobic.

I am not the OP of that thread, but seeing it reminded me of other similar things Ive seen elsewhere, so I wanted to ask

Has the term homophobic come to encompass something like, say, a parent assuming their child is straight (from observation/missing other cues, whatever the reason) and then expressing uncertainty the child is accurate in saying they are gay or bi?

Would it be ok for a person who is gay with a child they assumed to be gay (based on observation/missing other cues, whatever the reason) to express uncertainty their child is accurate in saying they are straight?

Because for some reason it seems that parental observation and bias are being equated, and I feel or at least I hope any actual parent would understand  these things are always the same. They CAN be, but they must not always be.

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