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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is the OP - I'm honestly not trying to mean girl anything! So you would just repeatedly say "I'm busy"?

I'm genuinely asking. I'm fine to learn that I'm the crazy one here, and I don't think I've ever actually been in a position to say this to someone, so it's not like I'm going around doing this. But I'm staging a hypothetical, and am quickly learning that what I would prefer to hear is very different from what other people would prefer to hear!

I'd honestly prefer someone to say something like "oh, it's so sweet of you to think of me! I'm actually at a crazy busy time of life right now, and just do not have time any more social commitments. See you at Larla's soccer game!" or whatever, compared to "oh, I'm busy that day" so I would know not to ask again. [/quote]

I mean, no matter how you phrase it, you're saying you don't want to be friends.  The first thing you said is fine, I guess?  It's better than saying, "Thanks, but I don't want to be friends with you."  But talking about "levels" is dumb Mean-girl status crap.  If you don't want to spend time with someone, don't spend time with them.  It's not like they are going to be all broken up that you don't want to be their friend.  Honestly, if you told me the first thing, you're basically saying, "Sorry, I don't have time to be friends with you."  I would just figure you were one of those people who thinks they are so important because they are so "busy" all the time, or thinks of themselves as so popular because they have so many "social commitments," like they are a store who isn't taking applications any more, and I wouldn't really want to be your friend anymore.  So, problem solved.   [/quote]

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