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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes they're competitive--this is a common dynamic in some relationships between parents. Part of the reason may be that they KNEW your child was having therapy, so they might have assumed that their child would be more advanced. Seeing your child successfully walk, eat regular food, drink from a cup, play with the sorter, etc., may have startled them, since now it looks like their child is relatively behind in those areas.

We all know that kids develop at different rates, and you seem to have been trying to assure them of this fact. ("I'm like "Whatever" in my mind but kept smiling and telling her that soon her DD will get over this phase...") But can you see that this might not be comforting coming from the parent of the "more advanced" child? It could sound a little demeaning.
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Thanks for your kind response and your first paragraph is exactly what I thought was going on...

I try not to talk about DD's delays all the time. I don't want people to feel pity for us/her so I try just to brush it off and I want to focus on the things she's good at doing and not the things she can't do.

Anyway, I'll watch my attitude next time. I don't want to give the wrong impression and sound demeaning at all. I was just really uncomfortable with the constant comparison and I was just trying to ignore it I guess. My bad.[/quote]

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