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[quote=Anonymous]PP here.

I would caution you from discussing IVF widely. I run in very liberal circles (academia), but someone told my colleague 5 years after the fact that I did IVF & she came to my office and lectured me about how healthcare dollars are wasted on infertility treatments, how I was contributing to overpopulation, etc etc

Others have strongly held religious beliefs, and may judge you for doing IVF.  I told one (former) friend early on, and she still sends me emails about embryo donation since she thinks discarding embryos is tantamount to killing a baby (and she’s a doctor!?) - she’s obsessed with frozen embryos (though she doesn’t even know if we have any) & it ruined our friendship.

I can certainly withstand this now, but it would have gutted me at the time. I would actually keep your cards close to your chest - people talk & it’s just shocking how openly they will pass judgment on reproductive issues/choices. On the other hand, I now know to avoid these people because they exposed themselves as judgmental jerks. So there’s that.[/quote]

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