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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree 100% with PP. I don't know where these other posters get their friends. I've picked and chosen who I tell about my journey and it's been really helpful. While few of my friends have had similar experiences, I think they actually all seem to "get it" pretty well and I feel really supported by my friends and family who know. That gives me strength when everyone seems to be popping up pregnant.

I keep thinking about a friend who struggled with IVF years ago. I heard her sobbing from her bedroom one night when I was visiting and my spouse and I were awe-struck about what could be wrong. We had no idea what she was going through and found out later she had had a miscarriage right before we arrived. This was years ago- before I ever started TTC, but I still think about how lonely it must have felt to play host like nothing was wrong when her world was falling apart. I might not have had the exact right words back then, but I can't imagine that it would have been worse than living it alone.[/quote]

I just wanted to clarify that, at least for me, the person who is throwing my struggle in my face is a member of my family, and certainly not a friend.  I would never let my friends do this to me, but my cousin and I don’t like one another and have been forced together (with every detail of our lives shared between our mothers) our whole life.  I 100% agree that you shouldn’t choose to surround yourself with people who can’t support you the way that you need, but (despite trying for many years), sometimes you just can’t avoid family members who either don’t know how to act/what to say or actively rejoice in your pain.  You just have to act accordingly, I guess. [/quote]

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