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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry OP. They will never get it. There are even friends who go through IF and then once they find success “forget” and do dumb insensitive shit. Don’t tell anyone, even the best meaning friends/family have no idea what to say[/quote]

I so disagree with this post. even though they will never get it, you could give some people the benefit of the doubt. that all depends on the people in your life, honestly. but I know the friends I told were much more careful with me around their pregnancies and sharing the news, something I greatly appreciated. even if they didn't necessarily have the right words, it helped that I was told over a private text rather than at a dinner when the surprise news was announced. the people who I have told have been more sensitive with me and that has been more helpful than anything[/quote]

100% this second response[/quote]

Look if you want people walking on eggshells around you tell them. Or tell them and deal with it when they throw their pregnancies in your face. It all sucks. I told friends and they went on to get pregnant easily and it was awful. Just awful when they complained nonstop about how uncomfortable they were or about the spacing between kids being off “by a few months” and you have gone through another failed cycle. For the PP’s that appreciated the hand holding just know they were rolling their eyes when you got a “private text heads up”[/quote]

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