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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why not try being as amicable as possible and get a collaborative divorce attorney? Getting ugly can cost you both with money and making the divorce much worse.[/quote]

This is never helpful.

I recommend the attorneys from FGM law firm in Fairfax. In particular,  Mehagen McRae[/quote]

I did not say mediation. I said collaborative divorce. They are different. Look it up.

And, it can be helpful. I know.[/quote]

NP. You know it helped you. It could be disastrous for attempting collaboration with a malignant narcissist. It would be a waste of time and money. Sometimes you just have to rip the bandaid off and have your first aid kit nearby. It takes two to collaborate. There need only be one person, not two, to have a law and order established that dissolves marriage.

Recommend family therapy wirh a 3rd party for everyone’s sake especially if there are any minor or adult children of concern. With the correct psychological specialist, having a fair and healthy space to address familial conflict pre/during/post  is worth it’s weight in gold.[/quote]

Not everyone divorces a malignant narcissist. If there is a way to agree on 50/50 split (or close to it), shared custody, there is not much more to discuss or fight over, and you don't need an expensive litigious attorney to do that. It is worth the conversation to keep it as civil as possible for the kids. I am not entirely happy with how my divorce went and I gave up a bit more than I should have but my kids are better off permanently so that was worth it for me although it took two years vs. 1 year like I wanted due to who I was divorcing. Most things were split mostly 50/50 but more like 40/60 (me less) but my kids are way better off and with less trauma that it would have been otherwise if I did it differently. Ultimately, I had my kids quality of life as the most important factor and that was better than an ugly divorce to me. If I had gone the straight lawyer route, it would have been really bad and very expensive...I probably would have walked away with less...he would have intentionally run up the attorney's fees to make sure there was less for me in the end. And I believe he would have. I gave in a bit, but my kids are way better off and it was not worth it to "fight" for exactly even. And now it is over so it does not even matter. [/quote]

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