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[quote=Anonymous]Agree that having toys and respect are two different things.  But, you both need to get on the same page.  You can't buy so much that you make your family's home miserable for your husband.  But, kids do like toys - not sure about need.

Personally, I don't see any issue with kids of all ages doing chores.  In our house, everyone participates in running of the house and your level of participation depends on your age.  I mean, I wouldn't expect 2 and 5 year olds to scrub the toilet, but I would expect mine to bring in groceries from the car after we shop.

As to eating, people deal with that in different ways.  I don't see declining food as disrespect and I was never a food pusher.  I can see how that could get to a battle of the wills and devolve.  I also don't see not wanting a parent as disrespect - kids do have preferences.  But, I can see how hurt feelings could arise.

Also, I was brought up with no toys or gifts except on holidays and I do not ascribe to that sentiment.  But, I do think that not answering when your parent is talking to you is absolutely disrespectful even if you are busy watching YouTube.  It's disrespectful when adults do it too.  And, you really do want your kids to appreciate what you give them.  You cannot imagine what it is like to have an entitled tween and teen.   What you instill now will carryover to how they behave when they are older.

Overall, a theme that I felt from your post is that you do things your way and don't include your husband.  It's your money so you can make his environment miserable for him.  That's not really fair.  I would bet that some of these issue that you are describing would not be such problems if you included him as your partner and co-parent.  [/quote]

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