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[quote=Anonymous]I came to the state at 18 years old, and DH is from here. We have 2 kids, one toddler & one 5 years old, different gender.

I buy kids clothing, toys & books throughout the year. I buy more when there are sales or I see something that I find good for kid learning or kids outgrow clothing. Most of them are educational toys & books to promote learning & reading.Our house has many toy organizer bin, buckets & cube organizers.I would say our house is a bit cluttered.  I buy everything with my credit card.

DH keeps saying that 5 year old does not “appreciate “or “respect“ him, and he keeps saying that he can’t wait the day to throw all kid things in the dumpster. He says that he misses the day that there are no kid cluttered things in the house. When 5 year old is watching YouTube and does not respond to his request/question, that is called disrespect. When 5 year old always wants mommy or himself better than or winning daddy in everything, that is called disrespect. When 5 year old insists & does not want to try a bite of food after a long parent talk for 10-15 minutes, that is called not appreciated & disrespect. He says that growing up, he needs to do chores or study with good grades to get toys, except on holiday. He says that kids need to learn to listen to parents, and appreciate all things that we provide for him. I hate it whenever he says that he wants to throw all kids things that I purchase with my money into trash can. We have a toddler that can play with all these toys, and they are all in good condition. I think reading books & playing toys are better than put them in front of tv on weekends. We stay home weekend these days. Our mutual friend house have a bunch of toys & books, no different from us, as well. How is your house look like?

This is modern age, I don’t understand his demand of “appreciate” &  “respect”  to parents from a 5 years old. He is an okay boy, a bit naughty, likes to tease sometimes. I don’t remember I understand the concept of appreciate or respect parents at that young age, but I am always a well behaved daughter growing up. I did not have to do any housework or cooking, and all I needed to do was to study well. What is wrong that I enjoy taking care & providing for him because I am his parent? I think he wants our son to appreciate things (clothing, toys, books) he gets from us, and recognize & respect him as a parent that provide him house & food. To me, it is like he wants a reward/achievement certificate for being a parent. Does your kid appreciate or respect you as parent at that age?[/quote]

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