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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I disagree with the above. Statistically, your fertility decreases pretty significantly between 39 and 41. For me, it would depend on how important it is for you to have a second. If you wait to start trying until your first is a 18 months old, and then you can't get pregnant, how will you feel? If the answer is "devastated" - start trying now. If the answer is, "meh, life goes on," maybe wait a bit.

On the flip side, if you get pregnant IMMEDIATELY and your kids are 13 months apart, and you're completely overwhelmed, how will you feel (hard to project, but try). "Meh, it's a short time, and I can throw some money at babysitters and night nurses and take out, and get through a tough two years" then go for it. If it's "oh dear lord, I really need more sleep, I don't know how I'm going to survive, I have no extra resources, I should have waited!!" then wait.

I guess - how much do you want another baby and how well do you do with chaos? Those are the questions I'd be asking myself.

For us, we're jumping right to kid two, mostly for reason #1. [/quote]

+1. Can't agree with this more. We never had that second because of fertility issues and are in the "devastated" camp. Really wish we would have gotten on board with the crazy close age gap and started trying MUCH sooner.

How long did it take for you to conceive your first? If the answer is 3 months or less, that means your fertility was probably pretty good at 37 and is [i]less [/i]likely to have plummeted. But if it's even 6 months, which is well within the range of normal, that's a flag that many of my secondary infertility friends only saw in hindsight. But I really think it comes down to how much you want a second. If it would break your heart not to have another, then don't wait. Your fertility in your late 30's is not a sure thing. [/quote]

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